The Fault In Our Stars aka The Movie I Swore I Would Never See

…but did. Today.  With my daughter.

I read the book awhile ago.  It struck me hard. It made me laugh. Mostly, it made me cry. My son had recommended this book and unlike his usual m.o. of spoiling endings, he told me nothing.  I should have known. I don’t regret reading this book at all.  It has had a lasting affect on me.

Then I heard there was going to be a movie. I swore up and down I would never ever see it in a theater. In public. Where anyone could see me cry.  It wasn’t even that really.  It was because I knew. I knew how the book made me feel and I wasn’t sure that I could handle such power and emotion on such a huge screen right in front of my eyes! Movies like this tend to become a part of me for a long long time…

Now, I am not going to spoiler this movie by talking about specifics, in case there is anyone out there that has not heard what exactly happens. (Which makes me think-do you think it is better to see a movie after you have read a book and know what is going to happen or better to go into one not knowing?  I go back and forth on this one. I am one that does like spoilers….I like to be prepared!)

But it really got me thinking about a LOT of things.  We ALL say that life is too short.  How many of us really MEAN it.  How many of us actually LIVE it?!  Raise your hands! Yeah, what I thought.  We can get caught up in the craziness of this thing called life.  The stress of jobs, money, kids. Silly fights with friends. Messy houses.  Really, what does all that stress help?  What is important?   Truly important? I think back at all the things I stressed over and how it always seemed to work out. I think of words said that I couldn’t take back and how saying nicer words would have been so much better!

When we are faced with our mortality, what is it we think of?  I bet it isn’t that your house is messy. I bet it isn’t the larger than normal heating bill. I just bet it isn’t anything like that.

I know when I had to think about it.  I thought about my kids. My husband. My family.  I thought about what I might miss…what they would miss if I wasn’t here. I thought about time and suddenly realizing that you are here for just a certain amount of ‘time.’  None of us knows for SURE just how much time that is. Things happen. You should live your life like you know that! Every day. Make someone smile, do what makes YOU smile. Laugh. Dance. Make a difference somewhere if that is what you want to do!

What if you were one of those people who were told that your time would be shortened. How would you deal with it? How would you live?  Would you live your days with grace? I do know someone who is living that way right now. She is my hero. She knows how that feels and she lives. Every day. Every single day.

Use your time like YOU want. Travel. Eat cheesecake. Sing even if you can’t. Be nice. To others. To yourself.  Live so that when your time is done, you can look back and say that you did all you wanted, you lived a life full of love. Have no regrets.

I do highly recommend this book and this movie.  But there is another book too.  I wasn’t going to read that one either. My son, yes, that same one, told me about it.  It is a book by the girl that this movie was inspired by.  Esther Grace Earl.  But I bought it, and read it.  I had to walk away a couple times.  It was a difficult thing to read.  You read Esther’s words, get to know her, all the while knowing she is gone.  She lived with so much grace.  She was named so appropriately. It was painful to get to the end.  But it is helpful to know how the world is better for her being in it.  There is a foundation now in her honor doing many good things in the lives of children with cancer. Check it out. http://tswgo.org/index.html

this star wont go out by esther earl with lori and wayne earl  is her book.  Do yourself a favor and read it!

http://tswgo.org/the-book.html

The life and words of such a young, wise soul. She inspired John Green to write The Fault In Our Stars and she inspired so many to go out and make a difference in their lives.

Life IS too short people.

Believe it.

2 comments

  1. Joy, great post. I went on opening day to see it with my BFF—well–she was in NC and I was in Iowa but we went at the same time and shared popcorn long distance. I loved the book, sobbed through it and knew that I would sob through the movie also. It was well done and I doubt that there was a dry eye in all the women that were there viewing it. I agree–live without regrets. It is a great motto and one I have adopted. By the way—am taking your book along on vacation this week so I will finally get it read. Now to get you to sign it—-I missed the breakfast this time and you were there. Rats. Great post, Joy. Thank you!

    • Aw thanks! There weren’t many of us in the theater -went at first showing today. But, you could hear all of us sniffing. I have adopted it too! Things are so different than they ever used to be! Let me know what you think! and yes, I was there, sorry you weren’t! thanks again!

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